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#1 Declan69

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Posted 11 April 2017 - 01:00 AM

What are your guys thoughts on this.

#2 ryanasia

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Posted 11 April 2017 - 01:05 AM

If you even look slightly happy or successful you will be subjected to internalized homophobia for no apparent reason. Good luck.



#3 kokopelli

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Posted 11 April 2017 - 01:17 AM

Forget it. Been with my Thai bf for 15 years and would never, ever consider marriage. 

You have not given any details so impossible to properly respond to your post.



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Posted 11 April 2017 - 01:39 AM

Forget it. Been with my Thai bf for 15 years and would never, ever consider marriage. 

You have not given any details so impossible to properly respond to your post.

 

Marriage isn't an option available to you so I don't see what you wouldn't consider. Not in Thailand anyway.



#5 NIrishGuy

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Posted 11 April 2017 - 03:50 AM

I'm not sure what the question is - is it actually asking how we feel about marriage equality in general OR do you mean ( to be fair exactly as you say) about how do we feel to marriage equality to a THAI guy ( any more than a guy from any other Country perhaps ?)  



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Posted 11 April 2017 - 01:33 PM

A couple of days ago, there were reports and photos of an ex staff member of Telephone Pub getting married in Thaialnd to his farang partner. It was also reported on Thai TV.

One million Baht dowry, half million in gold and a one carat diamond ring.

The marriage has no legal validity in Thailand (or elsewhere) but they will be going to the U.K. later this year to legalise their marriage.

 

Full story

https://www.thaivisa...m_campaign=news

 

As an edit:- sorry just remembered that there is a already thread on this story.



#7 PeterRS

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Posted 11 April 2017 - 01:56 PM

I have several friends who have married their Thai partners. The marriages took place in London and one couple lives there. Even with a 25 year age difference, they have never noticed any homophobia, strange looks etc. either in the west or on their regular trips back to Thailand. Another couple also has a big age difference and have lived together in Bangkok and once in Chiang Mai for 15 years. I have spent quite a bit of time with them. Again Ive never seen any signs of homophobia, open or repressed.



#8 NIrishGuy

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Posted 11 April 2017 - 03:37 PM

A couple of days ago, there were reports and photos of an ex staff member of Telephone Pub getting married in Thaialnd to his farang partner. It was also reported on Thai TV.

 

Just out of interest was the "marriage" being reported as "marriage" or a blessing and was the emphasise just on the fact that it had happened in general to a well known bar manager ( as I wouldn't have thought that would make the news particularly ?) or was it more a report on the size of the dowry that had been paid etc ( which again I wouldn't have thought was THAT strange in terms of white guys getting screwed out of their money for nothing other than a monk chanting a bit at him for a while)



#9 kokopelli

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Posted 11 April 2017 - 04:04 PM

Marriage isn't an option available to you so I don't see what you wouldn't consider. Not in Thailand anyway.

 

Marriage is available to me in my home country if I wish to purse that course. 

 

The OP was vague in his initial post, so don't know what he really was asking, does anyone?



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Posted 11 April 2017 - 04:10 PM

I read it as - Would there be any downside to marrying a guy from Thailand?

Maybe he's heard stories of Thai guys (and girls) taking the farang to the cleaners and is wondering if it's a good idea.

We need more information, declan.

#11 ryanasia

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Posted 11 April 2017 - 10:21 PM

I read it as - Would there be any downside to marrying a guy from Thailand?

Maybe he's heard stories of Thai guys (and girls) taking the farang to the cleaners and is wondering if it's a good idea.

We need more information, declan.

 

If that is the case nobody can really offer valid advice as none of us know who he would marry. Other than the fact you can only have a commitment ceremony here I can't think of any reason not to in all honesty. Do your ceremony in Thailand so you can test the waters before you go do it somewhere it is legally binding. 



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Posted 12 April 2017 - 12:08 AM

No one will know what the OP had in mind until he decides to clarify his post. Another reason that newbies who post something are suspected of trolling. Wait and see.



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Posted 12 April 2017 - 12:09 AM

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Marriage is available to me in my home country if I wish to purse that course. 

 

The OP was vague in his initial post, so don't know what he really was asking, does anyone?

I agree vague, but why not answer the main meanings.

 

Marriage equality in general---Great idea, with many legal rights attached.

Marriage for gays in general---Depends on the people involved.

Marriage between young and old--Depends on the people involved.

Marriage between members of different cultures--Depends on the people involved.

Marriage for me and a Thai man--working out so far 7+ yrs



#14 ryanasia

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Posted 12 April 2017 - 12:28 AM

Koko comes off as some repressed homo. To the OP do what you want to.



#15 kokopelli

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Posted 12 April 2017 - 12:14 PM

What is your problem, ryan? You come across as a bear with sore balls.



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Posted 12 April 2017 - 01:47 PM

Just out of interest was the "marriage" being reported as "marriage" or a blessing and was the emphasise just on the fact that it had happened in general to a well known bar manager ( as I wouldn't have thought that would make the news particularly ?) or was it more a report on the size of the dowry that had been paid etc ( which again I wouldn't have thought was THAT strange in terms of white guys getting screwed out of their money for nothing other than a monk chanting a bit at him for a while)

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big wedding, married his Thai sweetheart, nuptials and traditional wedding

were mentioned in the article translated from Thai Rath, but this might just be journalese.

 

I loved the sentence  handed over the diamond ring and the dowry was received by Samruay's happy parents Jet, 60, and Samrerng, 57. I'll bet Jet and Samrerng were happy.



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Posted 16 April 2017 - 09:43 PM

The Thai groom is aptly named สำรวย (samruay) which is used to describe someone who is foppish, pleasure-loving or idle-rich.    The auspicious circumstances of his birth might have led his parents and/or monk giving him that name and lo and behold, they turned out to be right!  I didn't know the word สำรวย could be used to describe men as I've only heard it being used to describe women - you learn something new everyday! :)

 

Question: why do gay couples often wear matching outfits at their wedding?  I find it somewhat nuff and uninspired.  And why was Samruay wearing football socks?  They both should have worn ballet shoes just for the fun of it!



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Posted 17 April 2017 - 12:06 AM

I have never seen the point in getting married. 

 

Well, perhaps the only advantage that comes to mind is making it easier for your partner to get a visa & maybe passport to move to your own country, if that is what both parties want. 

Whilst no doubt there are some relationships that work, I would think protecting against potential financial losses with a pre-nup agreement would be wise.



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Posted 17 April 2017 - 11:29 AM

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I have never seen the point in getting married. 

 

Well, perhaps the only advantage that comes to mind is making it easier for your partner to get a visa & maybe passport to move to your own country, if that is what both parties want. 

Whilst no doubt there are some relationships that work, I would think protecting against potential financial losses with a pre-nup agreement would be wise.

My partner and I live in Thailand but we had a Civil Partnership in the UK

The reason being to try to make it easier for him to access the spouse pension from my pensions when the day eventually comes and I am no more.

I meet my guy over 8 years ago and we took it slowly, including us living together for 2 years in the UK so we could both assess what a permanent everyday relationship would be like.

He came from a poor family, so I have made a serious financial committment in land and a house (secured for what it's worth with a 30 year lease in my name)

I have never regretted it, my financial input has been repaid many times with his emotional input.



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Posted 17 April 2017 - 07:54 PM


Marriage for me and a Thai man--working out so far 7+ yrs

 

 


I have never regretted it, my financial input has been repaid many times with his emotional input.

 

Nice to hear of positive real-life experiences with regards to relationships with Thai people.  Too often we only hear of negative experiences.  Thanks for sharing.






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